tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28223738.post4626783870202521337..comments2024-03-01T17:10:23.061+05:30Comments on Watching the World Go By: Adult ChoicesSearcherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14079322839823737564noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28223738.post-71354617641889504142012-06-09T19:18:38.088+05:302012-06-09T19:18:38.088+05:30Hey Staci thanks for writing in. One thing will al...Hey Staci thanks for writing in. One thing will always be constant in any relationship - and that's inequality - of commitment, of desire, of dependence, etc. The only thing that needs to happen is being aware of what your boundaries of tolerating this discrepancy are. In a dysfunctional relationship, beyond a certain point, the scale will tilt more often in the favor of unhappiness. How you Searcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14079322839823737564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28223738.post-57343889253021000022012-06-05T22:33:08.065+05:302012-06-05T22:33:08.065+05:30I completely agree. Romantic relationships rely on...I completely agree. Romantic relationships rely on autonomous decision making, meaning that while aware and informed on the opinions of society, your friends and even your partner, ultimately, you are entitled to weigh your own happiness into the equation, even if it defies all logic. I am completely satisfied in my "sin" even if it's silly or not productive or sets up poor Stacinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28223738.post-10582928151681436582007-08-04T11:16:00.000+05:302007-08-04T11:16:00.000+05:30In search for greener pastures when relationship c...In search for greener pastures when relationship contentment in its present form ceases or begins to fade away or deliberately done for the lark of it. All i know is it's easy to forgive than forget!!anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16316475192402994934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28223738.post-78639715525074550612007-08-04T02:14:00.000+05:302007-08-04T02:14:00.000+05:30It's an experiment, and your question just reveale...It's an experiment, and your question just revealed a lot about you. Pay closer attention :-)Searcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16435911851291204516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28223738.post-45898604400050686562007-08-03T21:35:00.000+05:302007-08-03T21:35:00.000+05:30Why do you have a picture of an old haggard woman ...Why do you have a picture of an old haggard woman on your blog?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28223738.post-50242815007164279662007-08-02T23:51:00.000+05:302007-08-02T23:51:00.000+05:30Because at the end of the day, if a guy doesn't ap...<I>Because at the end of the day, if a guy doesn't appreciate you, he doesn't deserve you.</I><BR/><BR/><BR/>Well saidAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28223738.post-12293842893702565862007-08-02T11:10:00.000+05:302007-08-02T11:10:00.000+05:30Bloggermom: Honestly, I feel your pain. My mother ...Bloggermom: Honestly, I feel your pain. My mother has asked me the same question several times (but in the context of marriage)- "It's ok now that you're single, but what happens 20 years later?" I don't know what happens later. All i hope for is that at that age, if i'm with someone and something like this does happen, i shall have the moral strength to dump his sorry ass and leave. Maybe join aSearcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16435911851291204516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28223738.post-76535420717941039942007-08-01T23:26:00.000+05:302007-08-01T23:26:00.000+05:30I don't know. May be it works for you guys. I have...I don't know. May be it works for you guys. I have never cheated, never will so it is difficult for me to fathom what goes on inside the mind of a cheater.<BR/><BR/>It is easy for you to digest this kind of behaviour because you guys have clearly cheated too, (or else somewhat condone it). It is easier to forgive and move on in that case. As the roles keep reversing, sometimes you are the cheaterAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28223738.post-6475335355314163482007-08-01T02:41:00.000+05:302007-08-01T02:41:00.000+05:30Bloggermom: I'm not justifying cheating with any a...Bloggermom: I'm not justifying cheating with any argument. I'm saying - the Cheater made a choice. Once he/she made that choice, it's up to the Cheated to make the choice of whether they'll stick around in the relationship or not. If the Cheated decides to stay, but continues to berate their fate/karma/ cheating partner for the grief currently faced by Cheated, then THAT is having your cake and Searcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16435911851291204516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28223738.post-36289487119697314892007-08-01T00:01:00.000+05:302007-08-01T00:01:00.000+05:30Searcher: I have been thinking along similar lines...Searcher: I have been thinking along similar lines recently. I call it the modern Tragedy of the Commons. Consider this: so much clutter in our lives, and yet so much need for space. For personal happiness. Such a lot of companions, and yet so little companionship?<BR/><BR/>Bloggermom: I am so glad you wrote in. I have been waiting since your last comment here. As much as I hate taking sides, I The Onehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11439320371087568504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28223738.post-61694127039309948162007-07-31T22:29:00.000+05:302007-07-31T22:29:00.000+05:30well written but i don't get it, are you justifing...well written but i don't get it, are you justifing cheating with the argument <I>"...If you single-mindedly chase your happiness (and that's a <B>good</B> thing, incidentally, since no one else will chase it for you)..."</I><BR/><BR/>I know you can't force anyone to be faithful, as that defeats the purpose of it.<BR/><BR/>But ma'm, you forgot the most important part of being an adult i.e. of Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com